Choosing to Mentor Women Biblically

All believers have a responsibility to build up other Christians, but older women have a specific mandate given in Titus 2 to encourage younger women. Sometimes women are matched in a church program for mentor/mentee relationships, but many women often find that the easiest mentoring happens when the connection comes naturally as the Holy Spirit draws two hearts together.

Older ladies in my church have always walked with me through the seasons of life. They prayed for me when I was single and wondering about God’s will for my future. They shepherded me when I was a young wife learning to support my husband and later taught me about selflessness and stamina when I became the mother of two little boys. I have godly women in my life now who love me enough to not only comfort me when I am hurt, but also to hold me accountable when I sin. Many younger women are aching for a deep, discipling relationship with a faithful older woman, but how can they find each other?

Many younger women are aching for a deep, discipling relationship with a faithful older woman. But how can they find each other?

Prayer: Ask God to lead you as you seek a mentoring relationship. Ask Him to draw you to a particular woman and make your heart tender toward her. Then approach her informally and ask if she would like to get coffee or lunch together.

Proximity: Sometimes mentoring relationships blossom simply because of proximity. Maybe you sit next to each other in choir, participate in the same small-group Bible study, or serve together in a church ministry. Consider whether God may have placed you together for this purpose.

Shared Interests: Look for women in your church who share your interests. If you enjoy walking for exercise, invite a potential mentee to walk with you. If you both support the same sports team, invite her over for a watch party on game day.

Mentoring doesn’t have to begin with a program or a formal commitment. Find a connection, take the first step, pray for growth, and trust the Lord to build the relationship into one that encourages the fruit of the Spirit and the flourishing of His Kingdom.